Mrs. Normal grew up in a ‘normal’ family, received a ‘normal’ education, married a ‘normal’ man, raised ‘normal’ children, and then, died.
The story of “Mrs. Normal” is probably the story of 95% of people and some may ask, but what is the problem with being ‘normal’? Normal is fine alhamdullilah and growing up with a family, receiving an education, being married and blessed with children are all in deed good things in theory. But is solely achieving these series of steps considered amazing or outstanding? Is it living our life with true ihsan (excellence) as Allah (Swt) asked of us? Is it fulfilling the role Allah (Swt) assigned as in the Quran as caretakers (khulufa’a) of this earth whose responsibility is to make a positive difference in our families, communities, and the world as a whole?
Many will live a life that is not aligned with their true nature (fitra) that Allah (Swt) created them with – a nature that longs to be in harmony with its Creator and the creation. A nature that enables them to be healthy, happy, successful and allows them to them to leave a legacy and truly make a difference, while in sha Allah awaiting an amazing hereafter. Many will face fears, failures and depression – feeling lost or lonely – not knowing what or how to accomplish what they really want in their lives.
Having said that, please take a few moments to consider what you really want. Consider your life and how you really want to live it, in light of what Allah (Swt) asked of us? What I stand for is living a life of happiness, success and fulfilment in sha Allah. Yes there will be trials and tribulations, but if we approach them with the right mindset, which includes our trust in Allah, the right skill set, and the right support system, then we can continue on the path of happiness, success and fulfilment in sha Allah.
This is possible for you – happy and successful life both in this life.
That destination is within your reach … as long as you understand how to achieve ihsan (excellence) and succeed in all aspects of your life including your faith, relationships, health, personal development, career/business and contribution. And the mindset and skills that are needed to achieve this success in all aspects in your life in sha Allah. This information is absolutely critical to your success InshaAllah. Your ability to understand how to achieve success in all of the different roles you have in life whether they be student, teacher, daughter, wife, mother, employee or business owner, volunteer or community activist and achieve balance in all of these areas is instrumental to your happiness and success.
Your initiative to learn how to navigate through all of these phases successfully WILL change your life and get you the destination you crave in sha Allah. This is a matter of planning for your success, happiness and fulfilment both in this life and in the next InshaAllah. Nothing else could be important as understanding how to succeed in your faith, relationships, health, career/business, personal development and ultimately contribute to this world positively and fulfil the role Allah (SwT) asked of you as caretaker of this earth. Imagine the security and confidence you’ll feel as you build the foundation of success principles and strategies for your life in sha Allah and realise the happy, successful and fulfilling life you have always wanted.
Na’ima B Robert is a published author and magazine publisher. Her books include the popular ‘From my sisters’ lips’, and teen novels, ‘From Somalia, with love’ and ‘Boy vs. Girl’. She is founder and Editor-in-Chief of SISTERS, a magazine for Muslim women. Na’ima has also been published in The Times, The Observer and The Muslim Weekly as well as several online publications.
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Na’ima defines herself as ‘Muslim, Black, mixed-race, Southern African, Western, revert and woman all in one’. Descended from Scottish Highlanders on her father’s side and the Zulu people on her mother’s side, she was born in Leeds and grew up in Zimbabwe. She went on to gain a first-class degree from the University of London and began writing when her first child was a toddler.
Na’ima has written several award-winning children’s books. Her frank and honest autobiographical celebration her adopted Muslim faith, ‘From my sisters’ lips’ was published by Transworld Publishers to much acclaim. Na’ima then published two teen novels, ‘From Somalia, with love’ and ‘Boy vs. Girl’ with Frances Lincoln. Her third novel, ‘Far from home’ is a crossover YA/adult novel, set in Zimbabwe..
Sister Farhia Yahya is a teacher and lecturer of Qur’anic and Arabic Sciences, and has taught English-speaking audiences for the better half of eight years. In addition to completing a BSc Biomedical Science degree in London, she also completed her Arabic studies and hifdh of Qur’an in Cairo Egypt, and obtained Ijazah in the two riwayahs of Hafs and Shu’bah from ‘Asim. She is a published author, upcoming novelist, and a translator of classical Arabic texts.
Farhia currently lives in London UK, with her father and siblings, where she loves cooking up cuisines and dreaming about elegant interior design and photography.
Umm Talha has 10 years experience in teaching Tajweed and Islamic Studies in London. Over the years, she has organised and taught many Islamic courses & currently she is Assistant Director at Iqra School.
She has studied with teachers in the UK and has travelled to Egypt to study with students of Sh Ayman Rushdi of the Fajr Institute. Currently, she teaches Islamic Studies in the UK, is a home-schooling parent and is managing a Youth Project for young girls.
Sister Rahma is a motivating and energetic counsellor and psychotherapist (member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapist). For many years now she has been seeing clients in secondary schools and privately. She is an NLP accredited practitioner, an accredited parenting practitioner – and runs parenting and coaching classes in the community.
Sister Rahma has had the opportunity to learn various Islamic topics with different qualified teachers within their fields (with Allah’s blessing and was awarded a certificate for her achievements). Sister Rahma is been involved in Dawah in the UK for over ten years now and is acutely aware of current challenges facing sisters within our community.
The mother of four bright children, as a youth counsellor and now as Britain’s top Muslim parenting coach, travelling up and down the country touching the lives of thousands of families.
East London, UK